Okay folks, let’s talk about Taylor Swift for a minute.
Taylor Swift sells records and built her image on being a poor, virginal girl who is victimized by mean, mean men. She writes songs about her “relationships” (we’ll move on to why that’s in quotation marks in just a short bit), that ESSENTIALLY consist of bashing guys she’s dated for wronging her. Because she’s innocent. And does nothing wrong.
Here are some of the dudes she’s publicly called out:
- Joe Jonas. Joe allegedly broke up with Taylor over the phone in a few seconds, according to her. Joe says he was hung up on, which I am inclined to believe. Let’s also just make it clear that 1. They hadn’t been dating for long, and 2. Both were in the midst of explosive popularity, constantly on the road, and had lists of obligations miles long. With that considered, and taking into account the fact that we’re living in an age of mass technological consumption, breaking up via the telephone seems completely logical. He could have done it over text, but he didn’t. It’s highly unlikely that he would have even had the time to fly out and break up with her (and also unkind to the environment). Long after this was over and done with, Swift wrote a song about Camilla Belle, essentially calling her a slut and saying “she’s better known for the things that she does on a mattress.” That’s awfully funny, Tswift, considering that you sell records that are all mostly based on the men you’ve dated and how they’ve fucked you over. While it is typical for musicians to write about such matters of the heart, it’s odd that this is what she is known for and yet it hypocritical enough to use that same thing to insult somebody else. Oddly enough, Camilla Belle isn’t known for such things.. at all. Huh. Add slut shaming to the list of why I’m just plain sick of her.
- John Mayer. Taylor penned the song “Dear John” about a man who is decently older than her. There’s nothing wrong with this, but you have to keep in mind that the two are likely in vastly different head spaces, different points in their life, and wanted different things. Taylor seems to be stuck somewhere in high school (sophomore year at best), and John Mayer is a grown man. “Dear John” paints Swift as an angel who did nothing but try to rescue this poor, cruel man from his life of mistakes. John Mayer commented at some point saying that they were never actually dating (I think she wanted it, and he clearly didn’t want more than sex WHICH IS OKAY BECAUSE HE IS AN ADULT AND THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH HAVING SEX), and also said this: “I was really caught off-guard, and it really humiliated me at a time when I’d already been dressed down. I mean, how would you feel if, at the lowest you’ve ever been, someone kicked you even lower?” Precisely. It sounds mean to us. Speaking of mean…
- Bob Lefsetz. Bob Lefsetz called Taylor Swift out for using AutoTune and sounding bad live after her awful performance with Stevie Nicks at the 2010 Grammy Awards. Bob wasn’t the only one who said that, it was a general consensus that she botched her performance and sounded (and generally usually sounds) way less than stellar live (use her NYE 2012 performance, complete with a fake cough, as more recent evidence of the fact that she sounds bad live). Swift penned the song “Mean” about Bob, which includes the lyrics “and all you are is mean, and a liar, and pathetic, and alone in life and mean.” Okay, so. Bob gave a very accurate critique of her performance, one with which MOST industry-types agreed with, and she turned around and released a song about it that not only called him mean, but insulted him as a human fucking being. Saying somebody sounds bad live is minor. Publicly calling somebody “mean, a liar, pathetic, and alone in life” is a whole different ballgame, and the TRUE epitome of mean. She was rewarded for this bullying with a Grammy or something. Way to perpetuate the cycle, Swift. Thumbs up. Definitely the bully, not the victim.
- Michael J. Fox. MJF joked about Taylor’s serial dating habits at the Golden Globes, making a joke that she should stay away from his son because she humiliates guys after their relationships are over. Understandable, no good father would want that for their son, right? Taylor Swift fans responded with things mocking MJF’s battle with Parkinson’s (“I hope your ugly ass son gets the shakes like you!” “HEY MICHAEL J. FOXE [sic] WHY DON’T YOU JUST HOLD STILL FOR 1 MIN. LOL WAIT!”), disgustingly threatening his wife (“I will set your bitch wife’s hair on fire you fucking dick!!!”), and just pure bullshit (“Who the fuck is this piece of shit Michael J. Fox?!”). Worthless piece of shit is definitely a stretch, especially considering Mr. Fox’s stand-out career and activism for stem-cell research, charity involvement, raising awareness about Parksinson’s disease, and philanthropic contributions. When articles were being written about how out of control her fans were, what did Swift respond with? “Thank you for having my back.” Nothing about how people should be kind, just, once again, playing the victim. Nothing was said that wasn’t true on MJF’s behalf, and nothing was out of line except for Taylor’s response. Encouraging bullying is never cool. Apparently you don’t even need to date her for her to encourage people to bash you. Tweet here (x). Edit: As my lovely Bugles has pointed out to me, MJF is just generally a stand-up, class-A type of guy. It’s likely he apologized because he’s just plain kind. Honestly. MJF is absolutely wonderful.
I’m ignoring some other examples and moving onto something that’s very current (as in, I feel compelled to write this because of tonight). Sorry Jake Gyllenhaal, I won’t even bother talking about how you are ‘Toothy Tile’ in the Blind Vice articles.
- Harry Styles. If you don’t know, Harry Styles is a member of the boyband One Direction, and is highly speculated (with substantial evidence) to be gay. His friends and family have both talked about his sexual orientation in a rather cheeky way but this doesn’t fly with their management. Promoted as a womanizer (for various PR reasons and because they have delusional 12 year old fans who think they will marry one of the boys), etc., it was pretty much well known in the 1D fandom that Styles’ one month long “relationship” with Taylor Swift was set up for PR, as his band’s management company (Modest! Management, known for heavily closeting their clients, and they’ve been sued multiple times for beyond poor/unhealthy treatment of those under contract with them) is keeping his sexual orientation (and his more-than-likely relationship with bandmate Louis Tomlinson) hidden from the public eye. I won’t go into the whole conspiracy around that here, but I’ll keep this focused on Swift. Edit: Again, the above subject matter contains conclusions I have drawn from empirical evidence. Such conclusions have been reached soundly, logically, and rationally. This post was not written with the intent of “outing” Harry, though I believe I’ve done no such thing, as this information has already been published online by those with no affiliation to me nor to this post. If you would like information on how I have come to this educated conclusion, please contact me via a message (not on anon) and I can link you to sources I have used in making this post.
Taylor and Harry’s fake relationship was talked about before it even happened, because word got out that it was supposed to happen. Blind Items are blind for a reason, and would not ever be revealed if there was ANY possibility that they were false, due to the sure chance of them being sued for libel. Okay, so. Keep that in mind.
Bling Gossip posted MULTIPLE articles about Swift and Styles being all for PR.
Here are a few:
Fake relationship starts next month.
The most important one. This even reveals Harry is gay, and confirms she was MORE than upset about how he didn’t even “try” to make their relationship look real. This is most important for what I am writing.
“She called him a “F*cking idiot!” and “A bad actor” and complained that “He didn’t even f*cking try!” to make them look like a real couple. This is especially infuriating to her because his management team was the one that originally hatched the plan to set them up.”
So Taylor Swift went from saying these things (which, again, would not have been ‘solved’ if it wasn’t true, for the sole fact that she would sue them for libel for damaging her pristine public image), to calling Harry Styles out tonight at the Grammys. Saying “So he calls me up like, “I still love you…” in a British accent? Honey, no. Please don’t. Your “relationship” was just confirmed to be fake. Don’t accuse him of things you wrote about somebody else, pleading for more attention.
Not to mention, but a month long “relationship” to any adult does not constitute humiliating somebody on an INTERNATIONAL STAGE. Month long “relationships” to any sane, normal person in their 20’s hardly warrants much of anything. But if you’re sixteen years old… well, you see where I’m going here.
Taylor Swift called out somebody at the Grammy Awards, despite the fact that their relationship was never real and claims that Harry wronged her. She’s making somebody else look like the bad guy, while showcasing how she is mentally stuck in sixth grade.
This is bullying. This is cruel. This is unnecessary. It’s the only thing that keeps her selling albums and, for some reasons, she’s still celebrated.
This is setting women back fifty years by making the female sex look crazy, clingy, immature, and irrational. This is a high-profile young celebrity playing the victim, not taking responsibility for her actions, and further embarrassing everybody involved in a manner that is downright mean and uncalled for. It is a slap in the face to feminism.
This is somebody that millions upon millions of young girls look up to as a role model, encouraging them to publicly humiliate people who do not deserve it. She’s encouraging bad behavior, bullying, and slut-shaming. I won’t even mention her atrocious homophobic past lyrics in depth, because that’s not directly involved with this. All I’m saying is that if you have children, especially young girls, PLEASE think twice before you purchase them that Taylor Swift CD, poster, or concert ticket. This is the quintessential mean girl playing the victim, pulling the wool over everybody’s eyes.
This is me saying I’ve had enough, Tswift. So fucking long.
I leave you all with this, from Blind Gossip:
A few notes to Tay Tay, who we hear reads BG:
1. Sweetie, the bodyguards that surround you don’t provide a magic invisibility shield or a soundproof shield. It might help to remember that the next time you are in a public place.
2. You’re worth more than $50 million, and you get publicity every time you so much as fart. How much more publicity do you need?
3. You are an adult. Nobody is forcing you to go out with a new male celebrity every fifteen minutes. Nobody is forcing you to do photos ops coming out of hotels in the morning. If you don’t want people to think of you as a slut, stop pretending to be one.*
4. The “good girl gets her heart broken by a bad guy and then writes a song about it” thing is played out. Time for a new schtick.
5. Act your age. Date your age. Oh, and try to date straight boys. They might actually like you.
* Edit: Once again, I feel the need to make something clear. The above list of “notes” to Taylor Swift is not written by me. As is plainly stated, it was taken from one of the linked Blind Gossip articles. I have no idea why people do not seem to understand this, but I suppose I can let their grotesque lack of reading comprehension slide. In addition, I am going to make something very clear: Blind Gossip, in the list above, is IN NO WAY slut shaming Taylor Swift. Taylor Swift commented that she looks like a slut— if you actually read what BG is saying, they’re saying that if she would stop pretending to be one, she wouldn’t be considered one. Now, let me add to this idea. I am a feminist. I think the term “slut” is foul and backwards. Women can sleep with anybody they choose, and it does not make them any less of a person. I don’t use the word in my life at all. Blind Gossip isn’t using it as a label out of their own mouth— in actuality, they are putting things into Taylor Swift’s terms. It was Taylor Swift who used the word, and they built on top of her actual quote. Therefore, there is no slut shaming going on. None. Please read thoroughly and understand the context of that section of the post prior to commenting on it. Also, see this post if you are considering sending me love (or hate!) on anon with the hopes of it being answered publicly.
Edit #2: I would like to state again that Styles’ sexuality or potential relationship with anybody is not the focus of this post. I don’t view calling somebody “gay” as a negative thing or a put down, so I don’t think this is uncalled for when it’s talked about often. Harry Styles has not publicly come out as being gay, bisexual, or anything other than straight (and the argument explaining how pathetic needing to so such things in 2013 is a long one, and one I will not attempt to firmly establish in this post), and so I would like to simply say that this post is still completely legitimate even without such confirmation and regardless about what you choose to believe about Styles. I’m beyond exhausted of answering this question, and if you would like my stance on this repeated, please refer to my tumblr tag ‘ask’ found here.